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What Do Guys in Their 20s Want with Women in Their 40s?


Women are amazing creatures. They can be fragile but strong. They can be brave yet vulnerable. They can be funny and witty but they can also be cut throat high hilled tigers. Women are said to rule the world. Men cannot get enough of them. The feminine power is undeniably strong. But what do women on their forties have that men in their 20s absolutely dig them.

Women in their forties are unlike women in their twenties and a little bit like the women in their thirties. Most women in their forties are already stable and have a strong career. They have mastered the art of getting dressed up and the art of stripping their clothes off. They are absolutely mystifying. Women in their forties are not old, they are just in their prime (have you seen Jennifer Aniston lately?). A long, long time ago, women in their forties have resigned themselves to staying home and waiting for the grand kids to pop out, but not anymore. The new millennium has turned things around. Before older men pry on young women and set aside women who are more mature, but now they are like the prime cuts of steak; everybody just wants a piece of them.

I’m not discounting younger women. As I am still in my early thirties. I’ve been an insecure teenager too. I have navigated the days when I was only starting my career in my twenties. And now that I have started to really have a savings account and have a plan on buying a house, I had come to understand why men who are young and hot find women in their middle age so alluring.

Here are the reasons why women in their 40s are just so irresistible.

  1. Women in their forties are confident – Women in their forties have already gone through so much in life. They have experienced enough crap for them to be confident in their own skin. They have good careers, a decent amount of savings and they know which outfit flatter their figures. They know how to feel sexy. They are not insecure but rather classy. They are not desperate and cloying for attention. Women in their forties are like lionesses in the African safari, they know what that they can deliver a kill.
  2. They take no bullshit – We women think we are empowered but to some extent we bargain for the sole purpose of getting peace and balance. Sometimes we don’t know when to walk away from something because we feel it is very important to us. On the other hand women in their forties have no time or patience to standby people and things that do not give them the right results. Men find this really interesting and challenging. It is very sexy to see a woman who can totally be in control of her life.
  3. They have no time for games – Some younger women resort to tricks and games to get what they want, don’t get me wrong women in their forties can also be manipulative if they want to. But unlike younger women. They know the right kind of strategies. They know how to navigate their way through mostly everything. It’s not a game at all for them but a well thought out plan that is executed properly. Men in their twenties normally want to play around, but they get to be upright with older women. They long for that discipline. In a way, it’s liberating for these boys, because they just have to real, good and honest. They know women who are forty-ish are going to dispose them if they are just going to play games so they try to be good.
  4. They are self-sufficient – Chivalry is not yet dead, but sometimes men also want to take a rest from picking up the bill from dinner. Women in their forties are normally employed gainfully and don’t need a man to give them what they want. It is nice to know that a woman does not really care about how much you make, but rather is interested in how good you are in conversation, life or sex.
  5. They are mysteriously sexy – There is just absolutely something mystifyingly sexy about women in their later years. Take Sarah Jessica Parker for example. She is 50 now but she can still turn heads of men when she walks down the street. Women in their forties know that investing in a good pair of lingerie goes a long way and that foreplay is not just for women but also for men. They put on musky perfume that do not overpower the senses but rather wake it up in a sensual way. They know how to work a white shirt and jean matched with a killer set of heels. They know the little black dress is so much better than the most fashionable dress that just came out from the stores. The red lipstick and some mascara makes them look hot way better than a ton of make-up.
  6. They have money and are not desperate – Women in their forties do not beg. They work hard and they know how to value things. They have already gone through the phase of balancing their check books and drinking too much martinis in the past. They have enough experience. They may not have a ton of money, but they have enough to live decently. They are not desperate to be loved, they love themselves already. Men just love women who are able to run their lives well.
  7. They are wise – Boy will be boys. Sometimes they long for some motherly pampering. Motherly in the sense of not being treated like a child but motherly in the sense that more mature women can give them decent advise on their work, life and almost everything. They can have tactics into making money work, having great sex and living a fulfilled way. This is a really great way for a man to find someone to lean on and support him. Take Ashton Kutcher for example with Demi Moore. Yes they may have broken up but he says that she gave him valuable advice in his life.

So why do men love older women?


Men love older sexy women because they are just like wine. They grow better with age. They become delicate, crisp and so addicting. We younger women can take this into example. We don’t really need to forty to be wise and mature, we just need to be disciplined enough to emulate their class and demeanor.

As for myself, I’m really trying. I want to be able to just shop for the stuff that really need and save more. I want to be able to go to a restaurant and know what I want. I want to be able to enjoy my food without being guilty. And lastly I want to perfectly happy in my own skin… but I’ll always, always love eating marshmallows.


Amaze a Guy with Your Beauty on Your Date

Beauty Tips on a Date

Let’s face it, men are visual creatures. They associate women’s looks with attractiveness. Men tend to feel that a woman who is well proportioned, healthy and clean would be a suitable mate. He feels that a female which at some level have similarities to him will be a good mate. She does not necessarily need to be a perfect hour glass but being proportioned means even if she is plus sized or skinny that her waist is smaller than her chest and hips. Men a hard wired to associate a woman’s looks with the viability for mating and producing a healthy offspring. But besides the science, men really love the feminine beauty and find joy in seeing it.

Amazing a man would mean that he finds you irresistible and sexy. He will think that you look cute and fun to be with. Looking pretty also boosts his interest in you for a long time. I know you may think that hey this is all shallow but clearly it is not. Women of any size and shape has some form of beauty; all they need to do is to find it and enhance it.

Here are some ways to work on what you already have and impress the man you are eyeing on your date.

  1. 1. Be clean and fresh – Men are generally wash and wear. They can be slobs sometimes. Being fresh and clean is normally a big factor for a man to find you attractive. Being constantly fresh is an exact opposite of masculinity so this can really work wonders for you. Take a shower every day. On you date, use a nice scented soap or shower gel. Don’t use something overpowering since this can be a turnoff. Your hair should be clean and not oily. Groom your body hair by trimming or shaving them or better yet waxing them. Men find hairless women attractive since this is very feminine. Your nails should be clean. Don’t grow them too long, as this may turn some men off. If you wear nail polish make sure they are not all chipped up.
  2. Look nice but sexy – When on a date your clothes can really make a difference. Don’t wear sweat pants or anything that makes you look like you just got out of bed. Don’t overdo your clothes too; I mean don’t dress like a drag queen or a desperate cheerleader. Men find women who leave something to their imagination sexy. Showing some skin is always good. Choose a particular part to show off. Normally men love seeing a bit of cleavage but don’t show most of it since you are not a hooker. You can also show a part of your back or legs. The rule of thumb is if you want to show off the top part of your body, then wear something decent for your bottoms like a pair of jeans or a skirt that is not too short. If you wish to show off your legs you can wear a nice tee or blouse. You can pair shorts with a long sleeved blouse. Just think about sexy librarian. She is ultimately hot but not desperate.
  3. Wear your hair – Studies have shown that your hair has a very strong power in attracting men. Men normally like hair that fall in waves. It should never look too stiff or dry. If you have long hair, you may opt for letting it loose. If you have shorter hair, keep it sexy by wearing chandelier earrings. Your hair should be soft and clean. Having great smelling hair is a must. You can spray some perfume on your hands, clap them and let the wetness evaporate a bit and run it through your tresses. You don’t really need to wash your hair everyday if your hair tends to be dry but make sure that it does not feel greasy. Condition your hair for added softness. Having damaged hair normally is a signal of being unhealthy and sends subliminal messages to a guy that you are not suitable for mating. Ponytails are an effortless way too to look sexy. Men dig seeing your naked nape.
  4. Have kissable lips – Scientific fact, men normally subconsciously associate our upper lips to your nether lips. Your lips should never look fake and sticky. Men get scared of overly shiny lips and glittered lips. Stay away from lip shiners that make you look like you have just eaten a tub or lard. Yeah they look nice on the models on those glossy magazines but they look scary to kiss in real life. Make sure to invest in a smear proof lipstick. Apply your lip balm at list 30minute before your date because they may feel too wet to kiss. Don’t lick your lips to try to moisten them. Your saliva contains enzymes that cause them to crack.
  5. Don’t wear too much make up – If a man asked you on a date, then he already finds you somewhat attractive. You should stay away from drag queen make up. Men feel that women who put on too much make up are superficial and shallow. Put light make up. Enhance your lashes with some mascara. Don’t put too much eyeliner, you are not a raccoon. Eye shadow should just highlight the eyes. Your blush on should look real and not like you drank too much wine. Remember that you should not look too different from when you have just had woken up since that is the face he will see right after you have sex.
  6. Have a pretty, dazzling smile – Everyone loves a smiling face. It instantly brightens your face. It’s like seeing a beautiful sunshine in a summer’s day. A pretty smile does not have anything to do with how your teeth are, they can be all crooked but still look cute. Keep your teeth clean and at least be in the same shade. You can try those blue tinted toothpastes that give you an instant bright smile.
  7. Be smart and have good conversation skills – Being attractive is not just looks alone. You can be one hot body but if your head is empty then the man would find you boring. You should offer something for him to be interested in you more than just getting into your panties. Having interests like books, art, music and hobbies would impress him. Stop blabbering how terrible your job or your friends are. Men find a woman who complains a lot irritating. On the other hand, don’t just be a nodder and agree with everything he says. You need to be able to have your own beliefs and opinions too.

Dating Beauty TipsSo How Do I Impress Him

A few simple words, look clean, pretty and real. Fake women are soon revealed one way or another. It’s not all about being beautiful, it’s also having something between your ears. Simple things like being clean can go a long way. A nice sundress can look cute and sexy. Air dry your hair and brush it. Good luck!


Why Do Men Act Like They’re Interested on a Date?

men-161005_640Why do men behave the way that they do? Sometimes we get puzzled and we just want to analyze them. There are so many things we would like to know about them. Men are not like women and women are never like men. Sometimes their identities collide and some traits merge, but most of the time the sexes have their own traits. Men are always seen as simple species and that they are easy to get but sometimes that is just not the case.

One of the things you’d probably want to know is if why men show mixed signal like why do they seem want to go out with you even if they can’t. I have tried interviewing a few of my guy friends to find out what is the real deal about this issues. I mean I have been burned too before. I have had my fair share of thinking a guy likes me but in the end he was really not. I’ll be a bit satirical here, I just want to vent out how my ego was bruised and broken too. But most of all, I’d want to help those girls out there who have been waiting for that Prince Charming, who will forever stay mum.

The Thrill of the Chase

Men are creatures of the hunt. Men’s DNA has been programmed to pursue things that they see as interesting, rare and covetable. If a woman seems to be viable and a good prospect, he will really try to chase her. On the other hand, if she is just like a meat dangling in his face then probably he will be lazy in asking you out since he thinks you’re just always available there. Aside from that it make you seem boring. He gets bored, so he does not pursue you anymore.

Another thing is that he might chase and chase you, then if he never seems to catch you, then he will stop chasing you too. He would eventually get exhausted. If he sees a quarry uncatchable then he will stop running after you. So stop playing hard to get, this is not the eighteenth century anymore for you to be wooed and courted.

I have known this guy who would really make an effort for the girl. He would buy flowers and all that, but I was too busy at that time. We went out on a few dates but there were other guys at that time so I could not focus on him. I thought he was really devoted but in the end he just got tired of waiting for me. Well he’s married now and I’m over that.

Some Men Just Want to Flirt

Flirting is fun. Let’s admit it. The attention we get from the first meeting is just addictive. The giddy feeling from flirting is such a good feeling that some men feel that they can’t get enough of it. They will flirt with anyone and EVERYONE. We would say it’s kind of unfair but this is a reality. It is a harmless way to get those feel good hormones in your system. Men do it, women do it. It’s just that some do it more because they get so into the flirting game.

If the boy you are eyeing is known to be a flirt, then give up. He might really be into you and he might really want to date you but if he just flirts and flirts then he just might not be into really going out with you. You may risk it, and ask him out. But just be prepared to be turned down because he just might say no or laugh at your face.


He Found Out Something About You That He Did Not Like

Let’s face it, some people put their best foot forward when they present themselves in the world. Being real all the time is the deal here. Men hate fakes and liars. If you hate his friends and pretend to like them or if you pretend to like PlayStation or something then he finds out then he would just not go out with you anymore. No one likes to be fooled.

He might also find out that you have very little in common and don’t want to waste time going out with you when he already know that you guys won’t click. Being able to share something is something important to guys and they feel that a girl is really interesting beyond her looks when she has a great personality that would mesh well with his.

On Conclusion

Men may be complicated for us women. But they are just pretty simple. They normally mean what they say and show it. But sometimes don’t read too much into the situation. But if you feel that you really like a guy, why not take the lead. We are no longer hampered by social standards that men are the only ones to ask out a girl. Come to think of it, in Japan, it is the women who give men chocolates on Valentine’s Day! Cut your losses short and just ask him out, if he says no then move on. I mean it would hurt like hell or would be embarrassing but it is better than waiting and waiting for something that you’d never know when it would come.


When Should a Woman Have Sex with a Man?

When should a woman have sex with a man?

Sex, sex, sex. The magical word that tickles our mind like feather teasing the middle of your foot. Some people love it, some people hate it (stuck up pricks), and some people die for it and most people can’t get enough of it. It is one of the most meaningful three letter words ever in the English dictionary. It has simply more power than a tank barreling down in war trail.

But when should women start having the big “S”? Well, it totally depends on you and your standards. I mean it is no longer the time of the Edwardian period where you have to get married to get down and dirty. Today’s women should be more empowered to know what is right for them and their bodies. Social norms should not apply to you or anyone else for that matter. We make the social norms. If you are doing it safe, then why not?

OK, OK. I’ll give you the low down on when it would really be great to have sex with a man.

Date #3

When should a

There is simply no right time, but date number three would be fine – The first date sex is totally cool with me. I mean it just means you both got the hots for one another. But hey, you don’t want that spark to fizzle out right? Men love the thrill of the chase. If they see you as an easy target, they will get bored with you and eventually will just find someone else that thrills them.

Just in case you guys end up boinking each, always be prepared. Don’t expect the man to carry the rubber all the time. You don’t want additional responsibilities right away. There is nothing more uncool than getting STD or getting pregnant when you’re not yet ready.

By date number three, you guys have probably exchanged a reasonable amount of texts to have sex. You have shared a bit of you with him and vice versa. Waiting a little bit helps because it builds the tension for him, making you more irresistible. Try to play the sexy game. Make him drool over you. There is no need to wear a see-through dress for that matter. Be subtly sexy. Spray some light and memorable perfume. Don’t put too much make up on. Don’t act too desperate.

Chemistry is chemistry. If you feel that there is an electric charge between the two of you, then probably you can go for it.

You are not a prostitute, Don’t Act like One

Don’t trade sex for attention or feelings. I mean yeah, sex is powerful and it has driven kings on their knees and all but you should not treat yourself like a piece of meat for trade. If you think you can lure a guy into a full-fledged relationship by using your wares to make him commit, well think again. Men can separate their heart and their hard on. They can be totally into you in bed, but they may not be in love with you. There must be something more than sex for him to want to be your BF.

If ever you get him to stay because of sex, things would possibly fizzle out in the end so you’ll see him bored in the end. You guys have to have more than sex to make a relationship last.

Norms, Schnorms

Well in the end it would always be you to decide when it would be best to jump into bed with Mr. Hottie. If you’ve got the chemistry, then go for it. Having sex should never seem to be like brain surgery. It should be fun and pleasurable. Just don’t look too clingy. Use your feminine charms to take the reins in the relationship.

Men are intrigued with mystery and sex. Keep him on his toes by sending this mysterious vibe. If he is in the office. Flirt with him sometimes but don’t just put it out there. Make him guess. Allow him to know you’re interested but not dying to be with him. Don’t be a booty call girl, be the vixen he can’t get enough of.

Sex is just so powerful. Everyone wants to have it, whether they admit it or not. The key here ladies is to be the sweet and innocent girl he wants but also be the mind-blowing sex goddess that oozes that appeal.

Enjoy sex…